Friday, December 14, 2007

Putting Your Best Voice Forward

I attended a networking luncheon this week for enterprising women, and I entered into an interesting, and unexpected, discussion with one of the attendees.

We went around the room, introducing ourselves, so that we could connect with each other after the meal, exchange business cards, etc. People laughed when I annouced my book HOW TO MARRY A MENSCH, as they often do. It typically raises curiosity and discussion from singles in the room.

As I was preparing to leave, a woman approached me. Being the love coach that I am, I immediately thought she was going to ask me about meeting someone, and the wheels started to turn about my dad's friend who I blogged about earlier. Hmmmm...maybe she could be someone for him?

That wasn't what she had in mind. Turned out she is a speech pathologist/coach and works with individuals looking to improve their speaking voices. She wondered if any of my coaching clients ever had that need, or if I could suggest how she might target the singles arena to promote her service.

She raised a point that is very valid. You can look great and have a lot to offer a potential mate, but do the tables turn when you open your mouth? What is the quality of your voice? Is it pleasing? Do you have an accent that you'd like to work on? Are you easily comprehensible? What is the manner of your speech?

Whether on a personal, or professional level, your voice says a lot about you. It's something, beyond the obvious, to think about when you're out there socializing. For example, if you are pursuing online dating and mostly emailing prospective dates....what happens when you ultimately either speak on the phone or meet? Until then, they hadn't heard your voice. Is it a turn-on or turn-off? You can work on it, if need be.

Don't just make a statement with what you say, but consider your delivery as well. It is within your control to put your best speaking voice forward, and you're worth it.


VK said...

Please let me know how I can contact this voice coach. I'm interesting in knowing how she typically structures her lessons with students (1x/wk, 3x/wk, etc.)and what it costs.

thank you.

Robin Gorman Newman said...

Her email is

Her name is Alice Merwin. She is in NY.

Hope you are enjoying my blog. Please do tell her I referred you.


Dancer said...

Hi Robin,

my neice has the same name she was named after my father Rubin.

I have single for about 8 years. On and off jdate about 6.

I'm an attractive woman and I'm have trouble finding a mench.

I'm finding that most men are looking for much younger women. I would'nt mind find a youner man also. I act and look younger the my age. Most people think that I'm 55.

I'm finding the men that are out there are only looking for one thing and it's not a relatioship.