Thursday, January 1, 2009

Love Goals

Let me start by wishing you A WONDERFUL NEW YEAR.

I was speaking with a wise friend the other day who was talking about 2009 and reflecting on the past year.

She said she hadn't felt like she accomplished all she wanted to, yet she really had done a lot. It was evident to me, and became clearer to her after I suggested she write it down.

But, she got me thinking about the notion of reacting to life vs. leading it. We can't control all that happens to us, but we can create a Goal list. She emphasized identifying Goals vs. making Resolutions. And,she suggested including 5 items.

So, what are your goals in the romance department?

If you hope to find a mate....consider this.

Rather than putting than much pressure on yourself, why not try a list such as a following:

*go out once/week to some place new that could be social.
*do volunteer work
*make up a business/personal card and carry it at all times, to give to appropriate people.
*have more fun with friends
*practice self care, so I can feel good about myself

You can adjust it accordingly to what feels right for you.

I invite you to give it a shot. And, if you're not sure, get quiet, and see what comes up.

You will know what feels truly attainable given the other demands of your life.

The last thing you want to do is put more pressure on yourself, but you also want to move forward with what feels important.